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Did you know that your actions help define how you think about yourself?

Now you might be thinking – “Wait a sec, isn’t it the other way round?? Doesn’t the way I think about myself define the actions I take?”

Yes, young Padawan, that is correct too! But it actually works in both directions. That’s how intertwined your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are. They aren’t one-way streets. All the mindset elements influence each other.


Self-Perception Theory

So what we’re going to explore today is a concept that is called “Self-Perception Theory” and was developed by social psychologist Daryl Bem in 1972.

In essence, it’s all about how people come to know themselves. How do you know all the things you know about yourself? How do you know you enjoy certain things but dislike others? How do you know your values?

Now according to this theory, you know your own attitudes, values, and preferences because you INFER them from your own behavior and the conditions under which they occur.

Say you go running every day. Well, this probably means you like running, right?

Well, maybe. But it could also be your friend really enjoys it and you don’t what to her down. Or you get rewarded for running by having to pay less for health insurance…

Anywoo, it’s fair to say that there are certainly external factors that make it more difficult to infer your inner states from your behavior.

But what if there are no external incentives and you don’t have any strong opinions about certain topics.



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Self-Perception Theory – Example

For example, you find yourself reading all those self-development books lately. It’s something you haven’t done before and haven’t had any strong opinions about. It sort of just happened.

No one holds you at gunpoint and forces you to read them. No one was disappointed if you stopped reading them and there is no extrinsic reward for reading them.

Now it’s a pretty safe bet to say, you like to learn about self-development. How do you know? Oh well, because it shows through your actions, right? You wouldn’t be doing this if you weren’t interested. Thus you infer your inner states from your behavior.

When you find yourself reading self-development books you come to think of yourself as a person who is interested in self-development. So you come to know yourself better by observing your own behavior.

Just like you would interpret someone else’s behavior and infer things about that other person. Like “Oh that young man organized a demonstration for a civil right movement – man, he must be brave, driven, and very interested in politics and civil rights.”



How to use self-perception theory to your advantage

Now you can use this to your advantage and help create massive inner shifts. Say you commit to doing something that you might not like YET and that might even be a bit daunting, like doing FB LIVES for example.

So you start doing one and survive. You do one each week. And after a while you come to the conclusion that you are someone who does regular FB LIVES, that is who you are and therefore you must be pretty confident. Because only confident people put themselves out there like this, right?!

Well, I can tell you from my own personal experience – this works!

When you see yourself doing brave things, that only confident people would do, you come to think of yourself as a brave and confident person.

Congratulation! You’ve just changed your perception of yourself by observing your own actions and inferring your characteristics.

Now, this can be hugely powerful, right?!

Another time that I’ve experienced this effect first hand, was when I finally decided to make a big scary investment and work with a coach: This resulted in huge internal shifts!

Because seeing me invest in myself and my business resulted in the knowledge that, oh, if I made that kind of commitment, I’m done dabbling. I’m someone who takes this seriously now.

It felt surprising, exciting, and terrifying all at the same time! I wonder if that’s how lobsters feel when they outgrow their shells… LOL

It’s amazing how you can still surprise yourself after all the time you spent BEING yourself!



Let’s make 2020 your best year YET!

And if you’re interested in learning how you can apply this and other knowledge to reach your own goals, I want to invite you to book your personal 90min breakthrough session with me!

Cause in the spirit of the upcoming holidays and the Black Friday shopping bonanza, I have prepared a fantastic offer for you too:

Breakthrough session

So from today until Monday, 2nd of December I’m offering you a 90min 1:1 breakthrough session where we get very clear on your next big goal so that you know what you’re working towards.

Goal setting

We’ll also make sure it’s aligned with your true personality so that you don’t achieve your goal only to realize it wasn’t what you wanted after all…


Alignment & identifying potential roadblocks

Once we know that you have a goal that’s totally aligned with your highest self, we look at potential progress blockers that might come up along the way and discuss strategies to eliminate them so that they don’t stop you from moving forward.

Action plan

We’ll outline an action plan to transform your old mindset and habits so that you can grow into the person you need to become in order to achieve your goal.

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Bonuses

1. Since I know that confidence is one of the key ingredients to successful change, I’ll throw in all the recordings of the Limitless You: Unlock Your Confidence challenge, plus the workbook so that you can boost your confidence enough to make those scary first steps outside your comfort zone.

2. And with the new year just around the corner, I’ll also give you 3 printable goal planners that you can use straight away to plan out your action steps and make 2020 your best year YET!!

Now you’ll get all of this for just €300 – that’s almost half of what it usually costs, so you better take advantage of this offer before it’s gone!

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Can’t wait to see you there!

Happy experimenting!

Yours,


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I'm Claudia from PearTreePond - The Solopreneur Safety Net. My mission is to help other mompreneurs shatter invisible ceilings and up-level their businesses & lives without sacrificing family time or compromising their health.

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